My father

I was going to blog about know-it-all's and negative people, but then I scrapped it to blog about my father who has a knack for pissing me off to the point that I want no more contact with him...EVER!

Let me give those of you who don't know my father (I think there's only one person who reads my blog that's ever met him) some background.

My father is a "recovering" alcoholic and during his marriage to my mother was constantly unfaithful, I actually caught him one time when I was sent to the bar to tell him it was time to come home...but I digress. My father was in the Navy and because my mother wanted me to be able to grow up without having to uproot me every 3-4 years, we stayed in one place while he was transferred to different posts. Because of this, needless to say, my father was pretty much never home, and when he was home he was always (and I mean always) at the bar and let me tell you, it's not cool to grow up as the daughter of "Dirty Dan". My parents divorced when I was 16 and for 2 years afterwards I refused to speak to or see my father. When I was 18 we finally started trying to have a relationship and it went fairly well. The woman my father is now married to is a woman that he cheated on my mother with and despite my initial want/need to hate her, I actually like her. I should probably mention that this is my father's 3rd marriage. His first marriage was to a woman named Stella with whom he had two children (daughter and son) and when they divorced he gave up his parental rights in order to get out of paying any child support (what a guy, huh?). Quite frankly I'm surprised that he didn't do the same to my mother when they divorced, not that he really ever paid child support anyway....deadbeat.

Okay so there's some background, now to the present issue.

My father is a Republican and I am a Democrat and therein lies the problem. Now I don't necessarily have a problem with the fact that he's a Republican, I have a problem with the fact that he constantly sends me emails with anti-Democrat crap. Today was the kicker. Now I'm not necessarily thrilled with everything about Obama, but come on!! So the subject of the email was something about a pilot's perspective of Obama. It talked about how his father was an African Muslim from Kenya and his mother was a white Athiest from Kansas and how that was so horrible because in this person's mind all Muslims are evil people (gimme a break!). Then it talks about how the father deserted his family and yada yada yada.

The following is our conversation over email:

Me:
So if you're black with one parent who's a muslim and one who's atheist then you must be a piece of shit. WOW. Perhaps it would be better if he was a white man who believed in God has several DUI's and was a previous coke addict....oh wait, he's already in office.

Dad:
My, my, you sure sound defensive, but you miss the point. He claims to be of the people but in fact is from the wealthy class. He also is a Muslim and I learned all I need to know about Islam on 9-11. If you think they will talk peace instead of act like the terrorists they have proven themselves to be you are living in a fantasy and need to wake-up. In the troubled times we live in we need someone who knows what to do in the face of a fanatical enemy and talking to them is not the answer. They will not stop until they have forced all to accept their way...or...die.

I hope you are not so naive as to think this could never happen, because it will without a strong leader who will act in a decisive way with all the might of this country as necessary. The simple point is he is not the man for the job……………..

Me:
It's not being defensive, it's just not being sucked in to everything I read on the internet that is blatant racist propaganda.

Saying that Muslims are all the same and are all extremists is an incredibly ignorant statement. That's like saying that every person with German heritage is a Nazi. It's asinine and I want no part of it.

After that his cocksucker friend emailed me:
You bitter lib, you missed the point. What actually is it that makes him qualified to be commander and chief of this great nation of yours and mine???

This was the final thing I sent:
Well since it's clear that we are on opposite sides of the political spectrum I think it's best that I be left off the email lists for these kind of emails for if it continues it will most definitely have a negative impact on the relationship between my family and my father.

My father responded promising no more emails about religion or politics. He knew when I sent that email I meant that if he kept it up he'd never see me or the kids again. And I'm just bitchy enough to do it! We'll see how long he can keep his "promise".

The thing that pisses me off the most about all this is after all the crap he put me and my mom through you'd figure he'd do whatever he could to not piss me off and try to be a good father and grandfather, when in fact, he refuses to even admit that he ever did anything wrong. It's like in his mind none of that stuff ever happened. He's now got a relationship with his first two kids and talks about them as if there was never a time he wasn't in their lives.

All I can say is that I'm SO HAPPY that I no longer share a last name with him. I'm even thinking of not even bothering to invite him to Molly's first birthday party in November.

Wow, that was cathartic.